Month: April 2016

Motivation?

When you feel like shit, you don’t really feel like doing anything. How do you push yourself to get things done? I try my hardest to do so but I am guilty of staying in bed all day. It just feels like your mind is made of mush when you have no motivation. I’m finding that my biggest push is to do it for myself, but sometimes I’m just like fuck it. I guess each day something new needs to motivate some people. What motivates you?

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

Relationships

Having a mental illness shouldn’t stop us from having full and complete relationships, but lets face it, they sometimes do. I don’t know any other way of making friends or having a romantic partner than how I’ve been doing it my whole life. So when I saw posts about how having BPD can make it harder to maintain relationships I was like woah, do people actually have it easier to make friends who don’t have a personality disorder? Of course people with personality disorders have the ability to maintain relationships, some just might have a harder time at it. Once a friendship is there, how do you guys work on maintaining it? And especially with a relationship? I know that having ups and downs can take it’s toll so it will be interesting to see how others manage and succeed with this!

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

Survivor?

People like to think that we are survivors of mental illness. But are we really survivors? To me, surviving something means that whatever it was is over with. Does mental illness really stop or do we just learn to live with it? I don’t think of myself as a survivor. I’m just living with a mental illness. I’m just being. If calling yourself a survivor is what gives you strength than I am all for it. But I am curious…would you call yourself a survivor or are you just living with it?

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

No more mental illness?

What if we lived in a world with no mental illness? How would we know our own strength? They say try to think of the positives in a situation so that is how I’m going about mental illness. Without it, we wouldn’t know who the fighters and warriors are in life. We wouldn’t appreciate things the same way when they go right, because when they do, how much more grateful are you? I’m not one to think that everything happens for a reason, but I do believe that you have the choice to accept things for what they are, and still move forward. Mental illness makes us warriors. It makes us stronger than ever. It sometimes hardens us but it also makes us vulnerable and open to feeling new things. Without it, we would be totally different people. I don’t think the same kind of strength would be inside us. That strength to fight and survive and to live.

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

When things just piss you off

I was scrolling through twitter and saw a bunch of accounts sharing articles on how antidepressants are linking to autism during pregnancy. I usually wouldn’t write an article about this, but that really pissed me off. Not only are they misinforming women but it’s telling them oh, since you have a mental illness and take medication, you might have an autistic child. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having an autistic child. But these people are misinforming women. If you are on medication, you should probably talk to your doctor if you want to make certain choices. But how irresponsible can you be by saying this? There are no conclusive studies that directly say antidepressants are linked to autism. If you are a pregnant woman, you probably shouldn’t go off your meds because of this. Thanks for letting me get out my frustration!

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

Relapsing: part of the journey

I think that relapses are part of life. When you have one, of course you say “fuck I just went back to my old ways,” but relapses are part of the healing journey. Nobody in particular wants to relapse, but it is what it is. It’s how you deal with that relapse that matters. Ok, so you relapsed, now it’s your choice to dwell on it or acknowledge that it happened and continue on with your life. It’s much easier said than done. Normally when I relapse I like to dwell on it making it harder to move on. I am still healing, and so are you. This is a life long journey and there are going to be fuck ups, but we must not let those define our journey. We have the power to get right back up and keep fighting. Relapses don’t define our strength, but the strength we have to get back up does.

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

Liebster Award

 

Thank you lifeontheborderlineblog.wordpress.com for your nomination! The rules are:

1. Thank the blogger who nominated you

2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger gives you

3. Nominate bloggers who you think are deserving of the award but more importantly promote newer bloggers who have fewer followers

4. Tell the blogger/s you nominated them

5. Give them 11 questions of your own

I would like to nominate…

http://howbadcanitgo.com/

https://vfreud.wordpress.com/

Your Questions are:

  1. What made you start blogging
  2. How has blogging made a difference to your life?
  3. What inspires you on a daily basis?
  4. What is your favourite food?
  5. Who do you aspire to be like?
  6. Why do you want to continue blogging?
  7. What is your favourite tv show?
  8. What kind of music do you like?
  9. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?
  10. What kind of animal do you think you’re most like?
  11. What gives you courage?

My Q&A

1. What makes you smile?

My dog.

2. What gives you strength?

My sense of purpose and my therapist.

3. What grounds you?

Being mindfull.

4. What’s your biggest accomplishment?

Overcoming certain depressive episodes I’ve had to deal with.

5. What’s the happiest moment of your life?

Still trying to decide…

6. What is your best and worst quality?

Best- I’m empathetic

Worst- I’m impatient

7. Why did you start a blog?

To help others and myself discuss mental illness.

8. What inspires you to write?

Knowing that my blog will reach others who are going through similar experiences and to get the conversation going about mental health.

9. What your favourite season and why?

Summer because I love the ocean.

10. If you could give yourself advice what would it be?

Life’s not a race, it’s a journey.

11. What’s your biggest fear?

Not overcoming my mental illness.

Thank you everyone for your support:)