Depression Talks

My depression talks. It takes over my personality. After a bit of time I return to my normal self. The problem is when my depression is talking, it says stuff that I normally wouldn’t say. It’s like in Ghostbusters when the ghost takes over the woman’s body. That’s what the depression feels like. 

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat 

Positive Outlook?

I’ve been told I’m an anxious person and that I should switch how I look at life. To look at it in a more positive way. I don’t know whether to be insulted or to harness that and try to work with it. I’ve been trying my whole life to look at the positive side of things. So when someone tells me I need to do that I get a bit taken aback. Do you think I have the right to? 

Yours Truly, 

Stigmasaywhat

When to tell?

When do you decide to tell someone about this part of your life? Mental illness I mean. I feel like I told someone too fast and that swayed how things turned out. Or maybe it wasn’t how fast I said it but things were going to go this way regardless. If you trust someone, does it really matter the amount of time you’ve known them? 

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat 

The One

Why is finding a significant other such an important thing? We can find joy in friends, family, hobbies, really anything. Is it something about an unconditional love that we strive for? Or is it to find our other half? But why? Why are we not good enough for ourselves? It’s normal and healthy for humans to strive for relationships. I just don’t know why there is such an emphasis to get a significant other as soon as possible. I believe that some of us aren’t meant to have one, and that’s ok. Or maybe given circumstances it just hasn’t worked out with anyone, which is perfectly fine too. Is it really our purpose to find someone and procreate? It’s hard enough to love ourselves, and to find someone else to do it seems amazing yet sometimes not necessary. Sometimes self love and the love from family and friends is enough to suffice. Thoughts?

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat

Interpreting and Control

I just watched a video saying that life is how you interpret it. You have to try and be positive and stay on the bright side to reduce anxiety/depression/etc. No kidding! If we really had a choice do you think we would be hiding in our rooms for days on end? Sometimes it’s not a choice. It’s just how we are wired, and that’s ok. But it just bothers me when people say just be positive. No, it’s not that simple. I wouldn’t have depression and I would make this all go away if it was that simple to just look on the bright side.

Now I feel like my argument is giving us loss of control. Which I know, is the worst thing to do. I’ve just accepted that this is how my brain works and sometimes thinking on the positive side doesn’t work for me. I think we can have control and still not be positive. When that happens, I am aware of my thoughts and know that they happen. What do you guys think about this topic?

Yours Truly,

Stigmasaywhat